When the average person wonders about enjoying life more, the phrase ‘live in the present moment’ often comes to mind.
The reality is that our past and our possible future can have a significant effect on our present. You can’t always completely forget the past, and you can’t be irresponsible about your future.
You will have a happier life if you keep the past, present, and future in the proper perspective.
Learn to not dwell on things that you can’t change. It is a complete waste of energy to wallow in regret, frustration, or anger once all is said and done.
Find courage in failure but don’t let it mean defeat:
- If you messed up, get up and try again.
- Similarly, if you missed your chance to fix it, let it go.
- Or, if someone did something to you, forgive them and move on with your life.
Celebrate the most positive things about your past. Take the time to remember the good times, the small (or large) achievements, and the unforgettable memories that have made your relationships and life worthwhile.
Remember, the past was years ago, last week, yesterday, or two minutes ago. No matter how excellent or horrible it was, today probably won’t be the same.
While it is reasonable to reflect, you must move forward. Don’t try to recreate the good of yesterday, because you can probably do better.
Draw lessons from what you have experienced, good or bad, but don’t dwell on history.
Your present is being written every second.
“Not a shred of evidence exists in favor of the idea that life is serious.”
―Brendan Gill, author.
Overall, the best way to address your daily life is to try not to get too serious.
Here are some ways that you can do that:
- Strive to have a balance between work and pleasure―perhaps even have both at the same time. If something isn’t fun to you, try to make it fun in one way or another. Otherwise, get through it as quickly as possible and reward yourself with something you do love to do ASAP. Don’t just have an attitude of dread and complain about how much you hate it. If you plan to reward yourself, at least you will have something to look forward to.
- Give yourself quiet time. Even if all you have is 15 minutes a day to yourself, make it count. Quiet your mind and find the inner peace that you need to keep yourself sane.
- Love people with all you have, and forgive quickly. Give so much love to those you care about that they have no doubts about how you feel. Life is too short of denying yourself outstanding human bonds or torture yourself because of offense.
- Laugh at yourself. Trust me, it feels great.
Define the purpose of your life. What will your contribution to the world be?
Think of a way to use your gifts and talents to make a difference in other people’s lives. When you are ready to pass into the next world and look back on your life, what will you have accomplished?
Think of that big picture when all the little annoyances, aggravations, and inconveniences come up in your day-to-day life. Just shrug it off because, in the grand scheme of things, it probably doesn’t even matter.
Set goals, dream dreams, and work towards them. It is better to have an expansive vision and accomplish half of that dream than set low goals and reach them, knowing you could have done more.
Expect good things to happen. While experiences may not turn out exactly how you picture them, it will still be useful if you hope for the best.
Accept that the past is over, make the most of every moment, and look forward to right now.
Don’t look back at failures in defeat, learn from them; don’t second guess yourself today, love who you have become; and plan on having a great tomorrow.